Well, ... it is not. Still, studying your 'three lines short list' would take years of dedicated work (and THOUSANDS of pages of serious and slow reading).
I would not make such a gloomy picture of it. Of course, it is vast and takes much seriousness, but in the same time it is joy for someone who likes physics and maths. The key to walking down the path to the end is to take fun of every step on it. Those steps have to be taken not just stages of something big, but fun by themselves, giving new objects to play with, new ideas to think of, new light and perspective of the world and familiar things, new answers and new riddles.
Fortunately I was led to the end by several questions shaped in my youth, 'what is a black hole' and 'what are quarks', though sometimes I did not see the road towards them from where I was, and I stopped for a while. This lack of roadmaps was one of my biggest obstacles, and so I don't hesitate to give a full scheme to anyone who shows even a slight interest. Maybe that's not the best thing I can do, telling a person how long is the way he has to go, maybe that sounds scary, and he wants to lose heart seeing it. But I promise, that this road not in the least goes down the dry desert! It is strewn with excellent treasures and it goes through beautiful gardens with wonderful fruits. You will never get tired of walking and never regret you started this road. And the distant goal won't float away like Fata Morgana.
Поэтому "idea of getting B.S in Engineering first", возможно, не так плоха, как нам может казаться. Но и вряд ли оптимальна.
А я её и не критиковал, кажется. It's always the person's choice what to do with his life, and if he feels B. S. in Engineering fits him best - let it be that. It's always OK to keep such interests as GR on the level of hobbies. And it's harder to find a place in life for a scientist that for an engineer.
2. Этот парень, если внемлет Вашим советам, книги будет, скорее всего, покупать ... . Западные люди часто принимают во внимание только тот совет, который имеет форму: "If you have to buy just one book then ..."
I'm not sure that's the worst thing to do. In the West, paper books are much easier to find, and cheaper, so gathering one's own collection would possibly be a good idea. Nevertheless, one should always consider other ways, like reading textbooks in a library or in a bookstore (some give such an option), making copies of the most important pages. Here in Russia it is OK to download tons of books for free into one's own PC, ignoring the rights of their owners, but I just don't know if it's OK for students in US, if this is widespread, if this is gravely unethical or only slightly, and if a teacher could advise such a thing to a student.
Though of course I won't keep secret a link as
http://bib.tiera.ru/ where all referenced books can be found, at least in Russian.
For just one book, of course, it's not possible to learn from. Even if consider the all-in-one compendium 'The Road to Reality', I don't think it is enough. You always have to read many books, you have to keep them at hand, you have always to check with them, because they give the same things from different aspects, and you never know which one will confuse and which one will help you. Be prepared to that. Also it's helpful to ask teachers, to take lectures, to watch video lecture courses on YouTube, which are plenty, and so on. Sometimes even online tutorials on the level of Wikipedia can be good. Let your sources be many.